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Moment of Clarity (#172)

Last year I attended a conference session titled, “Getting Clarity,” led by world-renowned clarity coach, Philip McKernan.

Sitting in a circle, our group discussion began with a participant sharing that he’d been struggling with the decision about whether or not to sell his business.  When McKernan asked him if he liked his business, his response was that he hadn’t enjoyed coming to work for years. When asked what he would do next if he sold his business, he replied, “I don’t know,” to which McKernan responded, “But if you did know, what would that be?”.

Right away, the indecisive business owner answered that he’d like to start a new career in a new industry. Within minutes, he’d committed to the entire group to start the process of selling his business and move toward getting established in his desired career. The emotional relief on his face was visible.

Over the next few days, many similar conversations with McKernan took place, including my own. The reality for most of us is that while we know what we want, we are often afraid to even acknowledge it, much less pursue it.

Instead, we tell ourselves that we’ll continue down our current path until we reach a specific financial milestone or some goal. Then, once that happens, we’ll buckle down and focus on what we really want to do. The problem with that line of thinking is that it’s a slippery slope. We tend to keep moving the bar forward.

It reminds me of an exercise my wife and I did with a financial advisor years ago. We were asked to write down our goals and most important relationships if we had decades, years or just days to live. Each of those lists looked different. The shorter the timeline, the more it became clear what was most important to each of us. Without that perspective, it’s quite easy and comfortable to keep pushing our true desires back because we think we’ll have the time to eventually realize them.

The reality is that none of us know our timeline. As this “goals and relationships” exercise illuminated, we might be thinking in decades when we only have years.

Making this shift often requires the involvement of an external event. In McKernan’s experience, he turned to coaching after his last business collapsed. It was this failed business that helped him realize he’d been hiding from doing the one thing he really wanted to do.

The sad truth is that although clarity lies within each of us, many of us don’t actually want it. Gaining clarity might mean that we have to face a relationship that, in our gut, we know is doomed, or move on from a career that isn’t going anywhere or doesn’t fulfill us.

McKernan has shared that people will travel thousands of miles and pay thousands of dollars to meet with him for clarity that they don’t really want. If they uncover their truth, they then need to live it. If they fail living their truth, then there is darkness.

McKernan’s work inspired him to start an initiative called “One Last Talk,” a process in which regular people deliver a 10-15 minute talk as if it was the last talk they’d ever give before leaving this world. As you can imagine, these talks are intensely personal. It requires the person to both understand and be willing to share their truth. That truth is what drives a passion or purpose in life.

What McKernan has found with One Last Talk (OLT) is that people’s first versions are typically about something universal or perfunctory, not about their story. Where it ends up after going through the OLT process is usually completely different and includes perspectives and stories that most have never shared publicly.

Just as McKernan requests of his One Last Talk participants, my question to you is, what story or stories are you holding onto that don’t serve you? Are you ready to see the truth that lies beyond them?

I was extremely fortunate to get the opportunity to sit down and interview McKernan on the Elevate podcast. After listening, you will understand instantly that he is living his truth. I believe his message will resonate deeply with many of you and challenge some of the stories you’ve been telling yourself.

 

Quote of The Week

“One of the scariest things in the world is to stand in front of the mirror and meet yourself.”

 

-Philip McKernan

 

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Grow and Scale Your Business with Online Courses | Megan Harrison | Episode #620

Megan is the owner of Megan Harrison Consulting, a digital agency that specializes in designing, developing and launching online courses. She’s passionate about helping business owners create leveraged income by productizing their expertise so they can finally break-free from the trading-time-for-money trap.

In the past year, Megan and her team have helped generate over $4 million for their clients through their online courses and programs.

She’s an Infusionsoft, Memberium, and PlusThis certified partner and a self-proclaimed “learning-junkie”.

 

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Peak Performers Podcast

Peak Performance Nation

 

#1 Podcast on how to get things done.  Learn from Peak Performers in all areas of life and Business.  Do you know what to do but can’t figure out why you are not executing what you already know?   If so, this Podcast will give you the tools, strategies and psychology to not only break through the choke point but to truly become a Peak Performer.  

 

Thor will be sharing his tools and strategies as well as interviewing inspiring Peak Performers that are Entrepreneur’s, Professional Athletes, Business leaders, Military, Technology guru’s, Health and Fitness masters, Relationships Experts as well as Music & Entertainment superstars.  

 

Mission and Purpose – To engage, educate, entertain and inspire listeners to excel in any area of life through mastering the science of execution and Peak Performance.  You will learn the necessary road map, strategies, tools and psychology to win this game. 

Unlocking Potential (#171)

Last week, I wrote about my incredible experience visiting a maximum-security prison with a group of business leaders. I also shared three lessons that I took away from it.

I was touched by the notes I received from people around the world who vulnerably shared their reactions to that post and their personal stories related to incarceration – either through a similar program or with a friend or family member in prison.

Reflecting on my experience and their notes, here are three more takeaways from my volunteer visit to Kern Valley State Prison.

We Are More Similar Than Different

As I mentioned last week, one of the most powerful exercises we did was to line up along a taped line across from an inmate; we’d all step forward or backward depending on if our answer to a question was true or not. In addition to illuminating clear differences in our upbringing and support structures, this exercise also exposed significant discrepancies when it came to getting into “trouble.”

A major difference between many of the inmates and the volunteers is that, when the inmate got into trouble early in their life, their families did not have the resources to bail them out or make the problem go away. Rarely did the inmate or their family have the financial wherewithal to hire an experienced (and typically expensive) attorney. Instead, they had to rely on court-appointed attorneys, many of whom are inexperienced and/or maintain high caseloads. Even when an inmate had gotten into trouble in ways similar to someone in our volunteer group, they were penalized far more harshly for their actions. For example, one was first arrested at the age of eight.

This also has a compounding effect, but in the wrong direction. Some of the poor choices they made in their youth – or were forced to make by a family member or guardian – only led to increasingly bigger problems later on, with added prison time and more serious consequences. The vicious cycle of incarceration is very real.

Every Action Has an Equal and Opposite Reaction

Almost all of the inmates that we met had been in a gang at some point. There were many reasons for this, including being young and vulnerable when they were recruited; lacking a support structure and positive social connections in their lives; and for protection. Many of these inmates lived in communities where gangs have a stronghold and were regularly subjected to violence by rival gangs. Joining a gang guaranteed support and protection as an alternative to being unprotected in their neighborhoods.

Tough new laws targeting gang association had resulted in many inmates having their sentences extended by 10 years, even if they’d joined in their early teens. One gentleman I spoke with was sentenced to 17 years for robbery before he was 18 years old because he had a prior conviction and was accused of being part of a gang; his original crime only carried a five-year sentence.

I heard many similar stories that revealed the real human impact of this policy, which is clearly not succeeding in serving as a deterrent. Rather, it’s over-crowding prisons with inmates who have done their time, learned their lessons and genuinely want to be productive members of society.

Everyone Has Potential

Perhaps the most important lesson that was reinforced for me on this trip was that everyone has the capacity to be and do better. What they need is hope, the right support systems and someone to believe in them.

Not only is this the blueprint of Cat Hoke’s programs, it’s the same formula parents and business leaders should follow to inspire others to grow their capacity and take their life and/or work to a new level.

This does not discount the hard work that is required to actualize potential, but it goes a long way in setting the stage for success.

If a group of inmates can be inspired to want better for themselves and commit to living a more purposeful life within the confines of a maximum-security prison, just think about what you could do each day to lift up those around you.

The impact could be life-changing.

 

Quote of The Week

“We rise by lifting others.”

 

-Robert Ingersoll

 

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Become an Author in 7 Hours | Nick Raithel l Episode #619

Nick Raithel is the creator of the 7-Hour Book. This proven system allows any entrepreneur or business leader to get their own professionally-published book while spending only 7 hours of their time on it.

With the 7-Hour Book, Nick is on a mission to help peak performers in business finally get the recognition they deserve. Time and again, he’s seen those in nearly every community who have incredible stories and knowledge to share. A book is the ultimate way for them to share their insights and, in doing so, attract business leads and leave a legacy. Yet the issue always seems to be that no one has any time.

Seeing this, Nick combined advanced time management strategies with his own experiences in publishing and marketing. The result was the 7-Hour Book, a service that’s been delighting clients ever since.

 

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Website: http://contentcorps.net

Twitter: Twitter.com/7RulesREI

 

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Thor will be sharing his tools and strategies as well as interviewing inspiring Peak Performers that are Entrepreneur’s, Professional Athletes, Business leaders, Military, Technology guru’s, Health and Fitness masters, Relationships Experts as well as Music & Entertainment superstars.  

 

Mission and Purpose – To engage, educate, entertain and inspire listeners to excel in any area of life through mastering the science of execution and Peak Performance.  You will learn the necessary road map, strategies, tools and psychology to win this game. 

Inside Out (#170)

“We don’t fire warning shots, so if you hear gunfire, get down and against the wall.”

Up until the Warden at Kern Valley State Prison in Delano, CA spoke these words, I had been feeling relatively comfortable about my visit to the maximum-security prison. His statements, however, quickly snapped me and the 50 or so other entrepreneurs in my group back to reality.

Our group of volunteers had traveled to Kern as part of Hustle 2.0, the brainchild of Cat Hoke. Hoke has spent almost two decades trying to reform the U.S. prison system and improve recidivism rates by teaching life and business skills to inmates to better their future.

After being guided through a series of armed checkpoints, our group entered the gymnasium area where we would be spending the day with the inmates, many of whom are serving life sentences and aren’t even eligible for parole.

When we entered, music was blaring. To our profound surprise, we were welcomed by the inmates with a tunnel of high-fives as if taking the field at the Super Bowl. Shortly after sitting down for introductions, we were asked to get up and “bear hug” twenty inmates for three seconds each in less than a minute. This act of personal connection immediately lowered any walls or barriers that our mind or body had built up.

Over the next few hours, we were paired up with inmates for one-to-one exercises. We listened to their life stories and plans for the future, coached them on their business ideas and helped them prepare for interviews if and when they got out of prison. For a bit of levity, we also had a lip-sync contest.

This incredibly powerful and emotional day shifted my perspectives and taught me many important lessons. I’ll address the first three in this week’s post and cover the final three next week.

1. Culture is Powerful.  I write a lot about the power of culture in business, but it wasn’t until my visit to Kern that I truly realized just how powerful culture can be. If a program like Hustle 2.0 can completely change the mindset, perspectives and behavior of a group of the most “dangerous” inmates, even creating a positive sub-culture within the prison, then cultural change within any organization is possible. While rules have their time and place, culture and values are profoundly stronger when it comes to creating a set of normalized behaviors and an intentional community.

2. Life is an Uneven Playing Field. Intuitively, I know this, but this realization became so much more evident as story after story unfolded in my discussions with these inmates. One gentleman I spoke with during an exercise on forgiveness shared that his father had tried to kill him when he was seven years old. He also shared that he had not had a visitor in three years; this day was the first time he had felt seen/heard since he could remember.

Another shared that his mother was killed when he was six and that his father went to jail for 20 years when he was seven, at which point he spent ten brutal years in the foster system. He was a brilliant artist with a great attitude and a bright future, but without a support structure or positive influence in his life, he got caught up with the wrong crowd and lost his way.

3. I Need to Judge Less & Seek Understanding More. For one of the exercises, we all lined up along a taped line across from an inmate. We were then asked questions about our lives and childhoods, stepping forward if the answer was true for us or backward from the line if it wasn’t. Very clear patterns quickly emerged.

      • If you grew up in a household with two loving parents, your experience was different than almost 100% of the inmates we met.
      • If you grew up in a household with more than 20 books, your experience was different than 95% of the inmates.
      • If your parents ever paid for any college or private school for you, your experience differed from 98% of those incarcerated at Kern.

The vast majority of the inmates we met were also first arrested before age 15 and many where sentenced to 20+ years or life before they were even 18.

This is where compassion and understanding are critical. One’s history and context contribute significantly to their reality. It’s so easy to judge a person or their situation in the present tense (i.e. this person is guilty for taking a life) without understanding what came before it.

To be continued next week…

 

Quote of The Week

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

 

-Dale Carnegie

 

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6th Fastest Growing Woman-Owned Company in the World |Britnie Turner l Episode #618

Founded Aerial in 2009 at the age of 21 with the mission of elevating people and places. Britnie has since formed multiple companies under the Aerial brand, all accelerating the mission by empowering people, sustaining the planet and utilizing capitalism as a force for good. Through the success of her companies, Britnie is resetting the standard of what is possible for women and young people across the globe and has won several national and international awards for speed of growth, innovation and trajectory. Aerial’s commitment to a triple bottom line approach is proving that conscious business is not only viable but the way of the future.

Aerial Development Group In 2009, Britnie founded Aerial Development Group, a Nashville, TN-based residential and commercial development company that revitalizes urban neighborhoods through renovation and infill. Employing a social enterprise business model, Aerial Development Group works to elevate people and places. Through its work Aerial is focused on mindfully revitalizing the urban core and also donates a percentage of its profits to support non-profit organizations in its local community and sponsors an orphan in Kenya for every home that is sells in the name of the home buyer.

Aerial Development Group is resetting the standard for how development takes places and works to prove the business case for addressing social needs through its projects. They collaborate with neighbors and community leaders to make their Nashville neighborhoods healthier, safer, and stronger as well as bring to life projects that allow people to connect with their best self and nature. They improve and revitalize those neighborhoods with innovative projects such as the First Health and Wellness Community in Nashville and Artist Housing, they incorporate tree planting programs, trash cleanups, sustainable features, new sidewalks, and connections to parks and greenways to give residents and the surrounding community access to a healthier life.

Britnie learned that business can be used as a transformative vehicle to change lives through the built environment. That insight led her to change the business model from simply building houses to strategically transforming neighborhoods into places people want to live in and empowering the residents already living there. Today, Aerial Development Group, a for-profit socially conscious company, is honing this model in urban areas of Nashville so they can apply it in other countries in the future to bring about social change.

Britnie believes in a business model of Excellence and Impact. Her main focus at Aerial is the excellence of the product and services offered to Aerial’s buyers, and the company culture that must exist to deliver them. Her companies then leverage the resulting reputation and resources to make a positive impact locally and globally as both a community of people and as a physical place. If it isn’t excellent, she won’t offer it. And if she isn’t making an impact, she won’t be doing it!

 

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Peak Performance Nation

 

#1 Podcast on how to get things done.  Learn from Peak Performers in all areas of life and Business.  Do you know what to do but can’t figure out why you are not executing what you already know?   If so, this Podcast will give you the tools, strategies and psychology to not only break through the choke point but to truly become a Peak Performer.  

 

Thor will be sharing his tools and strategies as well as interviewing inspiring Peak Performers that are Entrepreneur’s, Professional Athletes, Business leaders, Military, Technology guru’s, Health and Fitness masters, Relationships Experts as well as Music & Entertainment superstars.  

 

Mission and Purpose – To engage, educate, entertain and inspire listeners to excel in any area of life through mastering the science of execution and Peak Performance.  You will learn the necessary road map, strategies, tools and psychology to win this game.