I recall the first time I heard Hugh Massie Founder/CEO of DNA Behavior use this phrase. If I remember correctly he was talking about the wild reactions of investors to uncertain markets.
It got me thinking about my behavior and why it is that I don’t get on with everyone, but I do get on with many. I wondered why relationship with some is easy and comfortable and with others is clunky and puts me on edge.
I began to realize that this was an area of behavior I really needed to know more about. I’d always been aware of this even as a young child but had never given it much thinking room.
How, I asked myself, could I empower me to understand why I reacted in these ways and more importantly learn how to manage the awkward stuff.
The nature of my work meant that I had completed most all the ‘personality profile stuff’ available. However, as I looked back over old copies of reports I couldn’t put my finger on what in my profiles addressed this behavioral quirk.
Many years later I completed the DNA Behavior Discovery process and there it was – I am serious and reflective, suspicious, task focused yet group orientated. It was such a lightbulb moment for me as I reflected on the situations and connections that had troubled me and I hadn’t handled well.
I’m not great around overly confident, outgoing, (often noisy) people who invade my thinking time and cause me to react because I’m not a party animal. (How I wish I’d known all this in the tiresome teen years). I’m authoritative and frank and get frustrated when people don’t make quick and well-informed decisions. I’m at my best working with like minded colleagues where my need for reflection and creativity add value and are accepted.
No excuse now for poor response to colleagues, I’m self-aware and can’t blame myself for ignorance because up until some 20+ years ago there wasn’t a scientifically validated profiling system that revealed this for me. But now there is so, no excuse – I am empowered to manage my responses and behavior through self-knowledge.
What I’ve learned is how rich teamwork is when each individual understands their inherent behavior. The more diverse the team the better any outcome is. I welcome my crazy outgoing friends and colleagues; they are the fun. I need my reflective thinkers who no longer frustrate me (well maybe a little) because they are the gatekeepers to our business. I respect, above all else, those pioneers and strategists who have built the business, given me a career and released me to use my behavioral analytical skills to work with and empower others to be able to understand and manage their behaviors.
We are all muddling through trying hard not to mess up relationships but how much better would it be to break bad habits and build good relationships through a deeper understanding of why we respond in the way that we do.
Head over to our website and complete the DNA Behavior Discovery for yourself. It’s FREE and you will receive the outcomes straight away.
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